Kumusta Tita,

I’ve identified as gay my whole life. Recently I’m getting more turned on by the idea of fucking a woman. I’m watching lots of straight porn, and I’m turned on by the idea of cumming in her. I also love watching the men of course. I love hearing the straight man, the type of man I’ve feared my entire life, cumming and moaning and whimpering and sweating while the climax. It turns me on so much.

I have this fantasy of a guy inviting me over to fuck his girl and teaches me how to do it properly where he does it in a way that’s almost like a lecture. I’m sure that there are men like that out there, but I’m not sure if there’s a woman that would let a man fuck her knowing he’s gay.

Is this a desire born out of the need for male validation? Or is this a normal desire and I should find a couple who would be willing to participate?

I should note that I do NOT want to father a child.

Signed,

Homoflexible

Hey Homoflexible,

I always wonder what exactly is a “normal” desire. Like who gets to say what is normal and not normal? Is there some sort of divine sexual being that gatekeeps our desires and stamps a seal of approval before we’re allowed to fuck? If there is, I want to apply for that job and haphazardly stamp everything and watch the whole world spiral in to a chaotic orgy. Yes, your desires are yours and they’re natural.

Sexuality is fluid and ever changing. It’s an interesting dynamic when you look at how men’s sexuality is criticized. When a straight man says he wants to try something with another guy, his whole identity is questioned and his ego is beaten to a pulp. He must be gay. (I have “turned” a few men in my life, but the label the choose is theirs. I just got what I needed and dipped.) But when a gay guy wants to try something with the opposite sex nobody bats an eye at his sexual identity, and we all tell him to just “go for it.” Don’t get me wrong, I love it when straight men get an ass kicking because they rightfully deserve it. I just find it interesting that gay men are allowed to be more fun. AS WE RIGHTFULLY DESERVE!

The male validation part I get. As kids we would be the outcast amongst the sea of straightness. So we would take the shape of a hetero to blend in and follow the current hoping that the other boys would welcome us in their bro circle. I’ve been in many a bro circle and let me tell you, Homoflexible, none of them were straight.

So what if this fantasy is born out of the need for male validation? Who cares! Most fantasies are weirder than yours. Sorry to say, HF, but your fantasy isn’t special. You know how many diaper fantasies I’ve had to recreate for clients because they weren’t held as a kid? Too many to count. The point is that if the act does not involve children or animals and all parties are consenting, then nothing should stop you from pursuing it. I do like the idea of sex being treated like a tutorial. I think we need more of those kinds of people. What’s the word for that? Tutors? Educators? Educators of sex? I’ll figure it out.

If the desire for sexual contact with the opposite sex is somehow confusing for you, then welcome to life, babe. Lots of things are confusing, but when that confusion starts to make sense…

I’m more than certain that you’ll find a couple willing enough to let you in and roleplay the sex student. Have you seen how many straight women are attracted to gay men? I don’t blame them. We’re all hot. When you find a couple, let me know! I wanna hear how your threesome goes. I feel like a mother bird dropping a chick off the nest to flap their wings.

Speaking of dropping chicks, I’m with you there. I’m not all about children either. If the couple you find happens to be Catholic and you can’t wear a condom, wear a vasectomy.

Mahal kita,

Tita Slut